I have found many times in my career that we approach situations with fear. We are afraid of looking stupid, which I wrote about last week. We are afraid of looking too aggressive or too passive. We are afraid of challenging ideas because we are concerned about looking too negative. We are afraid to be perceived as inadequate so we feel we must speak up and say something in a meeting even if it is not valuable. We are afraid to deliver feedback or criticize someone because we may make someone feel bad. We are afraid to ask for what we want in case we are viewed as selfish or not a team player.